A Father’s Day Blessing

Therefore, come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you. And, I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty. 2 Corinthians 6:17-18 NIV

If you were not one of the popular kids in school, you can probably remember feeling isolated and overlooked. Nothing has changed, there are still thousands of kids who walk into school classrooms feeling just a little discouraged about themselves, and just wanting someone to notice them. That is exactly what a group of Dads did in the Jefferson County Public Schools in Kentucky. The Flash Dads program was launched seven years ago with the simple objective of making every kid feel special. High fives, fist bumps, and words of encouragement are the order of the day for these Flash Dads. Several dozen members go to different elementary schools across the Louisville area. They line up to “greet students, cheering them on and getting the day started on a positive note.”

Roger Collins said The Flash Dads are, “community members showing up for students who sometimes don’t have anybody showing up for them.” James Bogan, another Flash Dad, said they take their duties as role models and mentors to heart. Bogan said the students know “We’re not just there that day. We’re there whenever you need us. It’s not a one-day thing. It’s a lifetime thing.” (Catherine Garcia, “Flash Dads”)

It seems that every day somewhere in the world there is a celebration of something. On June 7, we celebrated National Donut Day, coming up is National Ice Cream Day on July 21 and the all-important International Coffee Day is Oct 1. However, two occasions get special recognition for the foundational role they play in society, Mother’s Day in May and Father’s Day was celebrated yesterday. Antoine Francois Prevost writes, “The heart of a father is the masterpiece of nature.”

Thankfully there is no “one way to do it” model for fatherhood. Some dads are super athletic, others can’t kick a ball. Some dads are fishermen, others know how to order off the Red Lobster menu. Some dads are quiet, others loud. As Max Lucado writes, “My father didn’t do anything unusual. He only did what dads are supposed to do—be there.”

I didn’t grow up with a flashy dad. We lived below the poverty line before there was a poverty line. You didn’t need an intercom system to get your attention since my childhood home was only four rooms. Like most dads, my dad wasn’t perfect, but he was there.

Just being there was enough to share a lifetime of valuable lessons. I learned honesty by watching my Dad buy things with a handshake, without credit checks or lengthy paperwork simply because he had a reputation for honesty. I learned to trust people by watching him write the names of people on his black folding checkbook with the amount they owed him for the work he did for them believing they would pay him. I learned to give my best on any job I did because that was what he did. There was no menial task that didn’t deserve my best.

Scripture records the stories of numerous fathers but I think Luke in chapter 15 captures the most powerful model of fatherhood. The story is better known as The Prodigal Son but maybe it should be re-labeled, The Loving Father. “There was a man who had two sons.” The younger took his inheritance and squandered everything. The older son stayed home but only grudgingly. Sadly, neither son found happiness in their situation.

Yet the story is really about the father whose love for both sons kept him risking everything for them. He never stopped watching for his younger son to come home. He never stopped waiting for the older son to find contentment. In both, he took the initiative to love his sons, risk his reputation, show compassionate concern, and always welcome them home.

If there is a “one way to do it” for fatherhood this story gives us a beautiful model to follow. A father’s love reaches out to a selfish son and a self-absorbed son with faith, hope, and perseverance. “Whoever fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for their children, it will be a refuge.” Pr 14:26

Fathers know the role is tough, demanding, and occasionally frustrating but in the end, it is worth it all. I leave as a blessing and encouragement British pastor Pete Greig’s prayer for Father’s Day.

“Father God, at a time of so much pain, when so many dads are distant, absent or even abusive, we lean into your ever-present love and healing. You are faithful and kind, especially for those of us orphaned, abandoned and hurt. For, “Even if my father abandons me,” as the Psalmist writes, “the LORD will hold me close.” Ps. 27:10

Father of Mercy, heal our many hurts, and restore the dignity, integrity and centrality of fatherhood in our families, in our communities and in our nations. As the Apostle Paul says, “I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. And I pray that you may know love.”

And finally, Lord, for all those poor souls everywhere who forgot that this is Father’s Day, we ask that you would bless them, in your abundant grace and manifold mercy, with the discovery of chocolate and half-decent cards in surprisingly well-stocked convenience stores. Amen

God is great!