Calming the storm

Now Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father had blessed him, and Esau said to himself, “The days of mourning for my father are approaching; then I will kill my brother Jacob.” Genesis 27:41

Hatred is a pattern that repeats itself for generations; often a pattern that is never broken. One of the more infamous examples of generational hatred in our nation was the Hatfield-McCoy feud that covered several decades in the 1800s. These two rural families from the West Virginia-Kentucky area lived for decades under the siege of hatred, distrust, and violence. It was because of one act of violence by one family that led to a retaliatory response by the other family, and a feud that implanted seeds of bitterness that bore fruit in the coming generations.

Scripture is filled with examples of the power of hate. We read in this Genesis passage that “Esau hated Jacob.” Their hatred set in motion a bitterness that would drive a wedge between two brothers and would ultimately live on for generations. Esau did not care about his role as firstborn and Jacob took advantage of the situation. A feud sparked out of jealousy, scheming, and hatred until a family was split apart.

Some of the other scripture stories reflecting this same pattern of hatred that drove Esau and Jacob apart include:

Cain in envy hatred killed Abel.

David in lustful hatred had Uriah killed.

Joseph’s brothers in jealous hatred sold him into slavery.

Absalom in revenge hatred killed his brother Amnon.

Judas in power hatred betrayed the Son of God.

Martin Luther King, Jr. understood too well the oppressive burden of hatred.  It was a burden that he didn’t want to carry nor pass on to the next generation. “Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.”

Dr. Linda Mintle writes “There is no positive benefit or place for hate other than directing that emotion to evil. Psalm 97:10 says, “Let those who love the Lord hate evil.” The way to get out of that darkness is to walk in the light and allow God to transform your heart. Forgive those who have hurt you, let go of bitterness and the need for revenge, stop thinking and ruminating about your injustices. Rather, think about how you can be part of the solution and begin opening your heart to love.”

This Native American anecdote sums up well the power of hatred. “A grandfather talking to his young grandson tells the boy he has two wolves inside of him, struggling with each other. The first is the wolf of peace, love, and kindness. The other is the wolf of fear, greed, and hatred. “Which wolf will win, grandfather?” asks the young boy. “Whichever one you feed” is the reply.”

Which wolf are you feeding? In our current culture, it is easy to find yourself feeding the wrong wolf within your soul. Jesus said “It is what comes from inside that defiles you. For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you.” Mark 7:20-23 (NLT)

Love is not the opposite of hate but love is the transformer of hate into love. It must be a love that is not some cheap perfume that only covers the stench of evil, but a love born on a splinter-laden cross. This is the only way to overcome the power of hatred. “But I say to you that listen, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you…Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:27-31

Lord, to love our enemies will not always be easy. Awaken in our hearts love that overcomes hatred. Stir within us mercy, just as you are merciful. Whatever we do, whomever we interact with, wherever we go, let us reflect your love. Amen

God is great